Just 3 Words can set your course for the whole year… Join me for the next 5 minutes and I will tell all!!

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Thank you so much for visiting, I believe in you and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions, in fact I don’t do New Year Celebrations! At least not in the traditional way that I see others celebrating. And I am not going to give you a long list of ‘tips’ or ‘advice’ – you are a grownup and have done every New Year in your life time too! Instead I am just going to share…

Three Words!
Three words that I apply to my year ahead. Three words that I apply to every piece of my life: Family, Relationships, work, business plan, physical, material.. Everything! No list of to-dos that will get lost within daily inspiration, no list of to-dos that will hold me back from something new. No list of to-dos that I can look back on and see exactly where I failed!! Uggh not a great feeling! Three Words that keep me both focused and open at the same time. Three Words that bring clarity to every decision that I make and to every goal that I set in front of me. 2011 my Three Words were: Others. Love. Evolve. Sitting here reflecting once again I can clearly see I have hit it spot on in the past 12 months. That’s a great feeling!

I have not set my final Three Words for 2012, I will take that time on New Years Day and it will be the first entry in my new (unlined) moleskin and I may just let you know what they are xo

This New Years Mike and I will be puppy and house sitting, nestled in a beautiful secluded spot surrounded by all the colours, sounds and aromas of nature. We will reflect over the past year and take all of the ‘good stuff’ into 2012 with us , nurture it and hold it close to our hearts and let it just be. The ‘not so good stuff’ we will leave it right where it happened, in the past and not look back… And we will finalize our Three Words.

This New Years we had both wanted to steal some time just for the two of us in a little bed and breakfast in the Adelaide Hills for a few days but we could not find a place we loved within our budget! Then the perfect offer; “How would you like to come and hang out with Eva (the puppy) for a few days while we are away?” Guess where the (gorgeous!!) home and puppy live… Yes in the Adelaide Hills!! Having a puppy to cuddle and walk with is just the sprinkles on the on the cupcake for me!!! (Did you note how my 2011 three words applied here too?)

Where ever you are and who ever you are with I wish you all the love, hope and peace your heart can hold, I wish you a year of inspiration, growth and bliss and I dearly hope your dreams come true. I would love to hear your thoughts on New Years Resolutions and how you are bringing in 2012.

Let’s make it our best year EVER and do our best work surrounded by people we celebrate and who celebrate us!!

and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

My phone rings, it’s my sister. I have only spoken to her twice in the past 4 years and she does not have good news. She tells me that her doctor’s office called two days ago and she will be in the hospital tomorrow for a biopsy, they have found a suspicious lump on her lung. Her voice is shaky and I suspect it’s because she is unsure of the response she will get from me. She tells me that she wanted to talk to someone who was important to her, someone she loved. She called me.

We had once had a very close relationship. 16 years older than me, she had changed my diapers, walked the floor with me and I had lived with her and her family at different times while I was growing up. I adored her, looked up to her. She in turn loved me unconditionally and we were always there for each other, that was until she went through a terrible and ugly divorce many years ago. At the time my husband and I chose not to take sides. I had known my brother-in-law since I was tiny and I felt that I could not choose between the two of them. Unfortunately because of our decision, we lost relationship with both of them. She remarried, we did not go to their wedding.

My sister and I had never argued, I supported their divorce, however in my processing of it all I did discuss ‘my’ pain of loosing them as a couple with other family members. And here is where the miscommunication takes place and continued over the years, though the divorce long past, the wounds continued and took on different forms. Everyone was talking except me and my sister.

The next day I met her at the hospital, we kissed and hugged in the car-park. She was positive and happy and so much more interested in me than herself. Everything bad, everything troubling just disappeared and all that was left was our 49+ years of sisterly love.

What she thought was an overnight stay turned into a full week of intense testing. Her husband traveled back to the country to finish packing as the removal truck was arriving in a week to take them to their new home, she gave me her car so that I could come and go as often as I wanted and she needed. We had so much to catch up on, and so many memories to relive. We laughed out loud, I cried from time to time but mostly we laughed. We talked a little about what went wrong but honestly neither of us could remember the “you said” – “they said” – “you did”, and neither of us wanted to… What would be the point? In our hearts we both took responsibility and just… LET…IT…GO!

Here is a KEY that most people do not talk about:
I forgave myself for my part in our troubled relationship, which enabled me to receive forgiveness from my sister.

If I could have a ‘do over’, would I do things differently? That passage of time where we ‘broke-up’! Yes I would, but none of that matters now, so I no longer think about it, we only have today and my hopes for the future.

All settled into their new home we went to visit them and slept over a few nights, Kay asked me how my daughter Katey, her niece’s wedding plans were coming along. We chatted about it and I told her that everything was going great but she was stuck on finding a veil. Kay went up to her room and came back with her veil, the one she wore when she followed me up the aisle… I was 4 years old. Kay asks, “Do you think Katey would like this…?”

Kay is turns 66 this year, she is beautiful and fun and has handled a really, really tough life well and I know she will continue to do so…

TakeAways:
• Never give up on a broken relationship – where there is love, while there is breath, there is life, and possibility!
• Own your part in the broken relationship.
• Be willing to let go of all that could have, would have, or should have been for what will be!
• Be open and recognize the opportunity for a relationship restoration.

How has family divorce effected you, how have you handled it?

Is there a relationship that you would love to see restored? I would love to hear from you.

Wishing you love and happiness and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

( This Article first published in Living Better at 50 )

What do you think of when you hear that old saying; “A match made in heaven”? Does your mind go all ‘dreamy’ or ‘steamy’? and perhaps back to the early days of when you first met your partner. Maybe it goes to the cinema screen and you get all Meg Ryan like in Sleepless in Seattle. But does it go to today? Does it go to yesterday? Or tomorrow?

Where does your relationship with your partner exist, heaven or earth?

With our thoughts, words and actions we create our relationships! And unfortunately great relationships are not created by ‘great intentions’! Each of us need to be the ‘star’, take the leading role in creating the relationship with our partner that is a blockbuster!

Guys – Be your partner’s Leading Man!

Chics – Be your partner’s Leading Lady!

Guys it takes time to be able to read your partner but it can be learned, and it does not have to take an eternity! If you really, really want to that is. I know that you are perfectly capable for the challenge, the question is are you man enough for it? You are capable of incredible things, so smart too! Look at all that you achieve in your work, the concentration that you give to watching football/soccer/golf/cricket! The dedication that you give to that last game or piece of software that you just downloaded… Don’t tell me it can’t be done!

Mix it up a little Guys!
- Change your hair style
- Grow a moe
- Shave your moe off
- Dress stylish
- Buy some new shoes
- Wear that Cologne that is fermenting in your bathroom cupboard – everyday
- Send your partner a ‘thinking about you’ text
- Call your partner on your break, ask how their day is going, (heck talk sexy – what have you got to lose!)
- Throw a mint in your mouth and kiss your partner passionately before you leave the house, leave the mint with them!
- Be interesting by being interested in your partner

OK now for the Chics:
The same as above, but probably don’t grow the moe!

Sometimes we get so stuck in a rut and we just stop thinking! Get your creative on and get your mojo cranking’!

I love you to bits and I would be more than happy to chat with you anytime!!

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

Boundaries, we all have them and I have observed that they are mostly unspoken and therefore invisible to our Partner, (often even to ourselves), that is until they are pressed and from there, communication starts to escalate and it can get a bit out of control – maybe that is just me…

Setting Relationship Boundaries is easy and I have listed my top 4 to get you started.

1. Separate you and your partner from your relationship. Get clear on the fact that your relationship is a separate living identity to the two of you and understand that it needs to be built, kept, guided and cared for by both of you.

2. Know Your Personal Boundaries
Here are 4 things to help you to identify your boundaries:

• Get clear on ‘Who’ you are.

• Get clear on ‘What’ you want.

• Get clear on ‘Where’ you are right ‘Now’.

• Get clear on ‘Where’ you want to be in the ‘Future’.

By understanding these 4 keys about yourself you will grow in your decision making, self-confidence, security and direction. Your mind will be clear and you will have a renewed purpose about your life. You will be in harmony where your thoughts, actions and results will all line up for you and you will be able to see the results that you have been longing for in your relationship.

3. Learn And Understand Your Partner’s Boundaries

• Don’t assume that your partners boundaries are the same as yours.

• Have the conversation!

• Be open to learn, you may not embrace or change your boundaries to match but remember this is not a conversation about you!

• Listen (this is not the time to debate).

Mike and I grew up in polar opposite environments. His parents were only children, they were English decent, his mum was raised in South Africa, his dad in Rhodesia. They were educated and affluent and Mike had never ever heard his parents argue, no not once to this day. Mike has one sister two years older, went to boarding school, university and into the military. He was raised the diplomat!

I on the other hand, was the youngest of 6, still have cousins that I have never met, (mum was one of 7 and dad one of 9 – I think). Mum and dad argued, dad argued with my older brothers and sisters, my brothers and sisters argued, someone was always ‘spitting the dummy/pacifier’ about something! The one with the loudest voice in our house most often won! I was not educated, we were middle class and at 15 years old, mum and dad both ‘away’ working I could either live in the house with my sister, her alcoholic husband and their young daughter or leave! So I left home, got a job and pursued my own life… I was a peace pursuing hippie chic!

Hippie Chic + Military Officer = Very, VERY different boundaries!!!

OK now can you see the importance of knowing, understanding and accepting both your own and each others boundaries?
Now Together you are ready to:

4. Set The Relationship Boundaries
Decisions need to be made, for example:
- Do we argue? How do we argue?
- Is it OK to have opposite sex BFFs?
- Alcohol, when is too much too much?
- How do we disagree?
- Phrases ‘not’ to use when we are on rocky ground are…
- Phrases ‘to’ use when we are on rocky ground are…
etc…

Anyone’s Relationship will be a time bomb if they are:

a) Not clear on their boundaries and b) Not clear on their partner’s boundaries

= Not clear on the relationship boundaries!

I love and appreciate you, and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

Meet Jason and Sophie:
Jason is successful and celebrated in his field and moving up the corporate ladder. Each weekday he leaves the house for the office at 7.30 am, he gets home at 7.00 pm every night, unless he is on a business trip. Sophie is a Solopreneur, a Personal Stylist with a solid client base, she loves her work! She is home everyday to get the kids off to school and she is there everyday when they come home. They have it all together and everyone who is not them, wants to be them!!

With the kids in bed their evenings are spent with Jason catching up on reports for head office and studying to keep the edge on his competitors, while Sophie researches trends and suppliers, she keeps her web presence fresh and alive and together they schedule the gym and yoga classes making sure that one of them is with the kids most evenings. They fall into bed exhausted!

Weekends they catchup with friends, family, birthday parties, do the chores, run the kids to their extra curricular events, etc etc etc As a couple they are pleasant to each other all the while ignoring the fact that they are growing apart more and more every day. He talks to his friends about his frustrations, aspirations and some-days…. She talks to her friends….

Change the names, change the work, change the roles, it does not matter… The principles remain the same.

Why take your relationship on a vacation?

To recoup, nurture and energize your relationship!

Actually unplugging from work and spending time in different surroundings will change the way our brain thinks, allowing inspiration and creativity to flow for you, your partner and your relationship. Nothing turns a relationship stale as quick as routine will!

Getting out of your familiar surroundings helps to bring a new perspective on the daily routine and therefore on your relationship.

Where to take your relationship on vacation:

• Go for a walk together with no plans and no final destination – hold hands – talk – listen, discuss your future, your desires and any issues that you may be experiencing.

Tip: Sometimes walking side by side and instep together can make some of the more difficult issues easier to talk about.

• Eat out at a new restaurant it will bring freshness to your thinking. Experience a new culture through food, remember it is all about breaking the daily routine!
• Make a date to talk and explore possibilities for your future and dream together, work on a vision board or mind map together. Bonus: You will be amazed as you see your ‘vision’ coming to pass in your lives.
• Take an actual vacation, go as far away as your budget will allow you to go. Pre-determine to get your mind off of work and any problems and just enjoy your partner. Remind yourself of the color of their eyes, the softness of their hair or the shininess of their beautiful bald head (wink). Remember and relive the early days, when you met, the fun times that you have had together over the years, silly times, special times…
• Travel abroad, experiencing different cultures broadens our view and shakes up our thinking, everyone is different and we are reminded that ‘our way’ is not always the ‘only way’!

Leave your baggage at home and travel light hearted, remember that old song Judy Garland sang – “Forget your troubles come on get happy, You better chase all your cares away” Sounds good to me!!

What fresh new experience do you have planned for you, your partner and your relationship, how are you enjoying your fresh autumn evenings or your bright spring days?

I love to hear from you!

Hugs and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

Your Self, Your Partner, Your Relationship.

At any given time, in any conversation that you have with your partner you will be either leading or following. Neither one of you will, or should be leading/following all of the time, that would be no fun at all and I would like to add both roles are as strong as each other and it takes a strong, confident and stable person to do both well.

Trust is a must when you are following within your relationship! My first trust is…

Your Self!

You must trust yourself!! It’s a powerful element in any healthy relationship. We have one daughter and like myself she has made mistakes within her relationships and some wrong choices, (I’m sure we all have). In tears on the phone to me, “what’s wrong with me ma?” we talk through it… One bad relationship after another will shake anyone’s confidence then one day ‘Mr Right’ comes along and all of those past experiences all of a sudden become very present. She calls, “Ma I met this guy…” I show her my excitement and anticipation and tell her to “Trust yourself!” She knows who she is, she is smart, she knows her weaknesses and her strengths, she is aware of what she likes about herself and what she doesn’t and now all that she has to do is not make ‘this guy’ ‘that guy’!

Your Partner!

Mike and I have been chatting about this and it has been a really big one for me. He was 24 when I met him and ‘aircrew’, he was ‘Maverick’ before Top Gun was ever written! While I was freezing my but off in Nova Scotia, Canada, he was traveling the world with the boys! Most of the time I had no idea where he was or when he was coming home. Trusting him, trusting his leadership in my life was a choice for me, I had a background of sexual abuse and it took years to realize this was the reason for my trust issues with Mike but we eventually worked it out, (remember ‘this guy’ is not ‘that guy’, no one had ever told me that and I had to discover it for myself). One of Mike’s amazing strengths is his patience, which can also be an incredible frustration, but overall I am so glad he has so much of it to our relationship! I have learned to trust him, and he has learned to trust me. That does not mean that every decision one of us has made has been right 100% of the time, but we always get to the place of harmony and we understand leading and following is co-shared.

Your Relationship!

When the two above momentarily let you down this one will get you through. There have been times for both Mike and I where our own personal insecurities have got the better of us and all we have had to hold onto was our relationship. The years of building it, all that we have individually given to it and taken from it; the love, forgiveness, strength, happiness, tears…
Finally get into alignment! Agree to disagree that’s fine and sometimes the reality of it, but get into alignment with each other and agree on the direction and get all of yourself behind it. Be a part of the success or failure of the decision, it will keep you close.

Have a fabulous week, enjoy every minute! I love and appreciate you!! Remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

Mike: "How would you like to spend Christmas in Canada"

Not ‘that’ position!!

This one: “Are you Leading or Following”?

Part 1: Leading

Knowing if you are ‘leading or following’ at any given time within your relationship will save so much frustration for both you and your partner!

Let’s assume that you are both strong leaders, you are both highly intelligent, pro-active, results orientated individuals with strong convictions. Everyone knows that a conversation between two partners has two key elements: speaking and listening. Let me give you an example of leading, speaking and ‘not’ listening.

Picture this: July 1983 Mike and I had been married just over 3 years, we had an 18 month old toddler and I am 7 months pregnant. We had just bought our first home and my mom had only just come to live with us, (mom was not coping well since the passing of my dad).

Thursday 4pm the phone rings and the conversation goes like this:

Mike: “How would you like to spend Christmas in Canada” (there is no ? at the end of the sentence for the obvious reason!)

Deb: “Silence”

Mike: “We have been posted to Canada!!” (very excited)

Deb: “I did not know you had put in for an overseas posting!”

Mike: “Yeah I did!! I did not think I would get it, but I did! We leave in October!!” “Isn’t that great!!”

Deb: “Okay…”

Mike: “Do you mind if I stay back at the bar with the boys to celebrate?” (In a Whoo Hooo voice)

Deb: “Sure love” (In a ‘shocked and terrified’ voice) “What time will you be home?”

Mike: “7.30″

Deb: “OK see you then…” Click

I was 21, I had never travelled out of Australia… Quickly the realization set in! I had to hand write an inventory of every item in the house and divide it into three separate shipments, have a baby, get her christened, get her a passport (we had official ones that could not include dependents), get the house ready for rental… Tell my children’s aunts, uncles and cousins that they would not be a part of our lives for the upcoming years… and I had under 3 months until we arrive at our new home! The biggest question in my mind was, “Do they even have doctors in Canada?”

Mike was leading, and he was leading his military career, he knew that this posting would be “awesome” for his professional development (and it was), HOWEVER, he had not been listening to the rest of his world, he had not been listening to his family!

This kind of leadership resulted in a 3 year conversation that sooooo did not work for us and placed enormous stress on us both and our family.

Fast track to 1990, Mike had another opportunity for an overseas posting, this time to Israel, we literally had a 3 minute conversation, he accepted the posting and we had 3 of the best years of our lives!

“Leading your Relationship” = Listening and Speaking

Over our 34 years together we have come to understand that leading and following within our relationship is BOTH of our responsibility, the key is to appreciate which role I am functioning in at any given time and to give that role all that I have got, all of my passion, intelligence and convictions!

I love and appreciate you!! Remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

1. Thou Shalt Love Yourself as You Love Your Partner!
This is a wonderful measure to use, it will keep you balanced. Stop and think for a moment, how are you treating your partner? Is it with respect, trust, love, appreciation? Or are you cranky with them, a “could care less” attitude, critical, suspicious, annoyed? Now take a look at how are you treating yourself…. How SHOULD you be treating yourself?
Ladies give yourself a hug, Guys puff that chest out, tell yourself that you are beautiful / handsome, that you are amazing and love living in your own skin and go out and conquer your world!!

2. Thou Shalt Unplug Together!
Yes that’s right, one night each week shut the laptop down, put your phone on silent and in another room so that you don’t hear it vibrate, turn the TV off, (lost some of you there), and talk about your own life ‘reality show’. It could be a scary step for some! Go on I dare you to give it a try.

3. Thou Shalt Leave Past Mistakes In The Past!
We all have enough to deal with and take care of today! Yesterday is gone and the only profitable memories we need bring from the past into our present day relationship, are the happy ones. You will disagree and you will argue but you can stay calm and focused on the issue and not get all fired up at your partner. Remember you can not be constantly looking at the past and walk into your future at the same time. Forgive and forget, no one is perfect, thankfully!

4. Thou Shalt Play Together!
Being in the same room does not mean that you are doing ‘anything’ together, I hear parents plan ‘Play Dates’ all the time for their kids, when was the last time you and your partner played together? What do you both like to do? Maybe it is tennis, surfing, listening to music, chess, going for a drive in the country, cooking, gardening…. What ever it is – Do it! And let’s make a pact to stop taking ourselves so seriously.

5. Thou Shalt Not Loose Thy Self!
People often ask me: “How have you done it, how have you been with to Mike for 34 years?” My answer is always the same, “I never lost the 16 year old girl that fell head over heals in love with him!” Has he changed over the years? YES! Have I changed over the years? Obviously! But we have never lost who we are as individuals, we have never lost our own personal values, or what we are passionate about, (made for some hot arguments in those early years too as you could imagine!). We have grown together, and individually we have grown better. Be unique, be quirky, be you, be the person your partner fell in love with!

6. Thou Shalt Be Romantic!
Light some candles, put some soul music on, draw a bath to share… Prepare a beautiful cheese and dried fruit platter and feed each other. Guys read a poem to your partner. (Tell me what romance ‘is’ for you in the comments below).

7. Thou Shalt PPPPP! (The 5 P’s)
Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance! 20 years of being a military wife I have heard this more times than I like to remember but it has served me well. (The military boys would add another P but as you are still getting to know me – I will leave the 6th one out, and leave it with your imagination). We have to plan the romance, the intimacy, the play time – we just do. Some may say “Well that takes all of the spontaneity out!” I say if you are not experiencing spontaneity in your relationship, then you are not doing the 5 P’s right, or you are not doing them at all! PPPPP means that you are ‘thinking’ about surprising or pleasing your partner as much or more than you are about yourself, trust me – it works!

8. Thou Shalt Be Your Partners Biggest Fan!
You are both successful independent people, support each other. Be the first one to celebrate a victory in your partners day, week, month, year. Support their wildest dreams, believe in them, encourage them, make space in your life for them to shine! Mike has taught me this, he always has been and always will be my biggest fan, where ever possible he makes my dreams come true. What kind of response do you think he gets from me for being this guy? I am his biggest fan!

9. Thou Shalt Be Your Partners Biggest Hero!
People do not often talk about this one so give yourself some time to think about it… Be the person that your partner is proud of. Stand for something and stand proud, follow your dreams and live your passion. I have done many things and been many places however my greatest achievement, the one thing that I would accept a medal for is ‘my children’. Raising them, nurturing them, loving them, crying over them has been my #1 passion of my life, and Mike is proud of me for it, (incredibly proud of his kids too of course). For some it is their career and I say ‘Good For YOU’ go for it, for me it was my kids. With Mike coming and going and coming and going with his work in the military, I was ‘it’ for a good portion of their childhood and I was passionate about growing a close and loving family and today that is what we have. I did not allow circumstances or other negative models in my life decide my family’s fate, I stood for my values and would not let go. And I did it for us. (I do know that it takes two to tango and I am not perfect, just passionate).

10. Thou Shalt Spend Three Minutes Per Day Celebrating Each Other!
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I love and believe in you, hugs… and remember…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!

Thursday September 15th in Australia is RUOK? Day!! If you click on that link you will see that Hugh Jackman is the spokesperson which is pretty cool in itself!

RUOK? is a national day of action which aims to prevent suicide by encouraging Australians to connect with someone they care about and help stop little problems turning into big ones.

The vision is to engage everyone across the country, from all backgrounds and walks of life, to ask family, friends and colleagues: “Are you OK?”.

Just this week I read Virginia Satir’s Poem and along with RUOK Day it has prompted me to take you one step closer to your authentic Self!

And ask: “How is your Relationship with Your Self??”

“How is Your Self-Esteem?” Have you taken time out for you recently, to center yourself, to build yourself up?

Virginia wrote “Self-Esteem” – inspired by Maria a 15 year old young woman Virginia was working with at the time. Maria was searching for meaning as many of us do during different seasons of our life.

I do not have permission to share the poem here however I have found it online for you! I invite you to spend time with…

My Declaration Of Self-Esteem
By Virginia Satir

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me.
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me.
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself…

Click here to read Virginia’s Poem… You will be blessed!! 

Meditate on it, think about the words and what they say to YOU.

AND then come back and share your thoughts with me, with all of us because, we NEED YOU, we NEED your authentic self to be present and available!!

I so appreciate you and value the time you spend here and I send you lots of love, today and always!

And hey… donʼt forget…

You Can Do Relationships!!

Deb xo
Relationship Consultant
The 3 Minute Relationship Coach^TM

If you would like to “Get Clarity” for your relationship, I offer a 30 minute complimentary call that will get you started and answer your immediate questions. Contact Me!