Meet Jason and Sophie:
Jason is successful and celebrated in his field and moving up the corporate ladder. Each weekday he leaves the house for the office at 7.30 am, he gets home at 7.00 pm every night, unless he is on a business trip. Sophie is a Solopreneur, a Personal Stylist with a solid client base, she loves her work! She is home everyday to get the kids off to school and she is there everyday when they come home. They have it all together and everyone who is not them, wants to be them!!
With the kids in bed their evenings are spent with Jason catching up on reports for head office and studying to keep the edge on his competitors, while Sophie researches trends and suppliers, she keeps her web presence fresh and alive and together they schedule the gym and yoga classes making sure that one of them is with the kids most evenings. They fall into bed exhausted!
Weekends they catchup with friends, family, birthday parties, do the chores, run the kids to their extra curricular events, etc etc etc As a couple they are pleasant to each other all the while ignoring the fact that they are growing apart more and more every day. He talks to his friends about his frustrations, aspirations and some-days…. She talks to her friends….
Change the names, change the work, change the roles, it does not matter… The principles remain the same.
Why take your relationship on a vacation?
To recoup, nurture and energize your relationship!
Actually unplugging from work and spending time in different surroundings will change the way our brain thinks, allowing inspiration and creativity to flow for you, your partner and your relationship. Nothing turns a relationship stale as quick as routine will!
Getting out of your familiar surroundings helps to bring a new perspective on the daily routine and therefore on your relationship.
Where to take your relationship on vacation:
- Go for a walk together with no plans and no final destination – hold hands – talk – listen, discuss your future, your desires and any issues that you may be experiencing.
Tip: Sometimes walking side by side and instep together can make some of the more difficult issues easier to talk about.
- Eat out at a new restaurant it will bring freshness to your thinking. Experience a new culture through food, remember it is all about breaking the daily routine!
- Make a date to talk and explore possibilities for your future and dream together, work on a vision board or mind map together. Bonus: You will be amazed as you see your ‘vision’ coming to pass in your lives.
- Take an actual vacation, go as far away as your budget will allow you to go. Pre-determine to get your mind off of work and any problems and just enjoy your partner. Remind yourself of the color of their eyes, the softness of their hair or the shininess of their beautiful bald head (wink). Remember and relive the early days, when you met, the fun times that you have had together over the years, silly times, special times…
- Travel abroad, experiencing different cultures broadens our view and shakes up our thinking, everyone is different and we are reminded that ‘our way’ is not always the ‘only way’!
Leave your baggage at home and travel light hearted, remember that old song Judy Garland sang – “Forget your troubles come on get happy, You better chase all your cares away” Sounds good to me!!
What fresh new experience do you have planned for you, your partner and your relationship, how are you enjoying your fresh autumn evenings or your bright spring days?
I love to hear from you!
Hugs and remember…
You Can Do Relationships!!
The 3 Minute Relationship CoachTM